{"id":3101,"date":"2021-12-08T09:54:12","date_gmt":"2021-12-08T14:54:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/?p=3101"},"modified":"2021-12-08T09:54:18","modified_gmt":"2021-12-08T14:54:18","slug":"organization-self-discipline-distractability-and-a-rant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/2021\/12\/08\/organization-self-discipline-distractability-and-a-rant\/","title":{"rendered":"Organization, Self-discipline, Distractability, and a Rant"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/64.media.tumblr.com\/67dcd47b8106f58f04fa3401c5c229e2\/d4d9f0a10ab74af7-29\/s1280x1920\/23856512bd99ca41cd3c4c2fcd0d6e5c63a7b9af.jpg\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>A friend of mine re-posted this tweet. I am quite certain that because of this friend&#8217;s (VERY REAL) struggles there was a feeling of being seen and validated. And that&#8217;s a <strong>valid <\/strong>point of view. If something comforts you in your struggles, that&#8217;s valid, no kidding. And this article might annoy you. Scroll on by. I&#8217;m not wanting to dump on what keeps you going. Times are rough enough.  Seriously&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My initial reaction before logic kicked in was nearly incandescent rage. Which led to this rabbit hole as I tried to deal with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why did a little meme make me so mad?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>So, remember how it took me<a href=\"https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/2021\/04\/14\/it-took-me-thirty-years-to-vacuum-a-closet\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"3071\"> thirty years to vacuum a closet<\/a>? I could have as easily said it took me thirty years to pay my bills or cook a meal or several other things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh sure, I&#8217;m organized <i>now<\/i>. I&#8217;m talking &#8220;color-coded boxes when it is time to move&#8221; level of organization, &#8216;kay? But even though other people don&#8217;t see it, I still remember being shamed in fourth grade because of the desk cubby crammed full of books and papers, and being asked, &#8220;You&#8217;re so smart, how come you can&#8217;t&#8211;&#8221; about So. Many. Things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I didn&#8217;t become organized by ignoring reality<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I am not naturally organized. I am not naturally industrious, and I am not naturally all that productive. I&#8217;d call myself lazy, but that invites a lecture from anyone who loves me about being too hard on myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I did, at some point, need to accept certain realities. Not paying bills can land one in court. Disorganization can be a big problem in one&#8217;s professional life. In my own case, I also have a big problem with depression, so <i>I cannot count day to day being on the ball and thinking clearly.<\/i> (I mean, really, this rant was because of an initial reaction of NOT thinking clearly)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, shooting for some damn Platonic Form of &#8220;Organized and Disciplined&#8221; in my case is a recipe for failure. I&#8217;m going to bet it is for <b>you<\/b>, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><b>If your plan has no way to account for delays and failure points, it&#8217;s a wish, not a plan.<\/b> <p>There used to be a fashion in self-development on YouTube to have The Perfect Morning Routine. You know, get up, do twenty minutes of yoga, make yourself the perfect nutritionally-balanced breakfast, read some Improving Literature, and bike to work&#8230; that kind of thing.<\/p> <p>To tell on myself, yeah, I&#8217;m trying to get in more stretching and yeah, I use a yoga app for that. My general idea is that I&#8217;ll get up and do twenty minutes of yoga (stop laughing at me) and then do my day.<\/p> <p>I did not, in fact, get right up and do that. It&#8217;s almost ten in the morning, I&#8217;ve been up since six, and I&#8217;m here writing this incredibly detailed rant and <b>not<\/b> getting in that stretching. So I&#8217;m failing, right?<\/p> <p>Wrong.<\/p> <\/li><li><b>&#8220;Imperfectly Perfect&#8221; has a lot going for it<\/b><br>My goal for the month is to get in ten minutes of yoga a day as an average measured over a month. I&#8217;ll throw in a few minutes today at some point. Probably after I write this. <p>While an organized person looks like they&#8217;re doing things in a strict way and in a specific order, that may not be entirely the case. Sure, you have to show up at the dentist at a specific time, or take your meds before you eat or something. But what time you do your writing or wash your dishes has a lot more wiggle room.<\/p> <p>Let it have that wiggle room and let goals that don&#8217;t <strong>need <\/strong>to be exact <b>be<\/b> inexact.<\/p> <\/li><li><b>&#8220;Good Enough&#8221; and &#8220;Perfect&#8221; are two different things. Good enough is better than Perfect.<\/b> <p>Bed making&#8230; I&#8217;ve heard people say that bed-making is too much trouble. When I hear that, I almost always presume another choke point &#8212; bed against the wall makes making it a pain in the ass, depression makes it hard to get OUT of bed, never mind making it, things like that.<\/p> <p>But&#8230;<\/p> <p>If the only time you make your bed is when you have the energy to make it neatly enough you won&#8217;t be yelled at on Parris Island, you have absolutely confused &#8220;Perfect&#8221; and &#8220;Good Enough.&#8221;<br><\/p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"200\" height=\"356\" class=\"wp-image-3102\" style=\"width: 200px;\" src=\"https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"A made bed with pillow shams a little askew\" srcset=\"https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-scaled.jpg 1439w, https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-169x300.jpg 169w, https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-576x1024.jpg 576w, https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-768x1366.jpg 768w, https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-864x1536.jpg 864w, https:\/\/noelfigart.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/1208210849-1152x2048.jpg 1152w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/> <p>I took that picture thirty seconds before I wrote this. I did no adjustments on the bed. It&#8217;s just how I made it this morning. I woke up this morning cranky and wanting to punch Humanity in the mouth. So, not motivated. This meets my personal definition for good enough. It&#8217;s made. I&#8217;m dressed and doing my day.<\/p> <p>Good. Enough.<\/p> <p>Defining Good Enough will help you.  What is &#8220;Good Enough&#8221; in <strong>your <\/strong>life?<\/p>    <\/li><li><b>Ignoring real issues of executive function will set you up for failure.<\/b> <p>Are you distractable? I am. In fact, this article is a prime example of distractability for me. I haven&#8217;t written what I plan to do for the day in my Bullet Journal and haven&#8217;t done most of my Wednesday morning chores. I got ranty and just <b>had<\/b> to sit down and write this. That yoga I was going to do? That planning out the day I (usually) do? Obviously not happening right now as I ranty, ranty, rant.<\/p> <p>But my life is set up to account for things like this. I accept and plan for the fact that stuff like this <em>happens!<\/em> I <i>have<\/i> a means to track what needs to be done that won&#8217;t let the genuinely important and urgent things fall through the cracks. Even though I am currently caught up in the glorious dopamine hit of ranting, those things that need to be done are quietly sitting in their places, waiting for my attention.<\/p> <p>Thing is, it&#8217;s more than just a to-do list. It&#8217;s setting up your life to account for how <i>your brain<\/i> works.<\/p> <p>That might mean storing your extra sheets under your mattress so you will immediately re-make the bed when you wash your sheets, or hanging a mask on the back of your door so you don&#8217;t forget to put then thing on before you leave your apartment. (Yeah, I know, that looked oddly specific, didn&#8217;t it?)<\/p> <\/li><li><b>Being organized and disciplined is a skill. Mastering skills take time.<\/b> <p>Think of anything you know how to do &#8212; playing an instrument, cooking a meal, writing fiction, driving, whatever.You might have <i>wanted<\/i> to master it overnight. But if you actually developed the skill instead of stopping the activity, you probably put in a lot of time and effort. You probably had failures that made you wince at yourself.<\/p> <p>Learning the skill of organization is no different.<\/p> <p>I know that saying it took me thirty years of solid work to get organized seems like hyperbole. It&#8217;s not. It was really that difficult for me.<\/p> <p>Which is, I know, why images like the above set me off a little. I <b>know<\/b> the intention is to make people feel better about a mutual struggle.<\/p> <p>But it also makes me feel like in the common cultural mind, my life&#8217;s work was mostly a waste of time.<\/p><\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A friend of mine re-posted this tweet. I am quite certain that because of this friend&#8217;s (VERY REAL) struggles there was a feeling of being seen and validated. And that&#8217;s a valid point of view. If something comforts you in your struggles, that&#8217;s valid, no kidding. And this article might annoy you. 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